You have an idea for writing a book. You plan it out and think through a timeline. You have what you want the content to be. You come up with a title and then change it. Again, again, and again.
There's only one problem.
The writing part. You haven't actually put your butt in the chair to start writing it. You can do all the planning and preparation, but until you commit to actually doing the work, it's still just an idea.
As Gary Vaynerchuk says, "Ideas are sh*t, execution is the game."
So, what are you waiting for?
More than likely, the problem is that you're waiting for the right moment when everything is perfect.
Guess what? That's not going to happen.
On the No Meat Athlete podcast, co-hosts Matt Frazier and Doug Hay interview vegan bodybuilder Robert Cheeke. In their discussion, they talk about whether or not we should care what other people think. You can listen to it here.
Sometimes we get paralyzed into inaction when we take into account what others think. While it's great to get input when we ask for it, we can also get overwhelmed. We might think something is an amazing idea, but if others whose opinions we value don't think it's a good one then it goes no further.
If we are waiting for just the right moment or to have everyone on board with our idea, it's going to be an incredibly long wait.
We just need to put ourselves out there and execute!
Stop being afraid of what MIGHT happen and embrace what MIGHT happen. Sure, we might very easily fall flat on our faces...many times. Keep getting back up, regrouping, and trying again.
Robert Cheeke gave a personal example of when he started bodybuilding and went to his first competition. He got 4th out of seven competitors. He didn't quit just because he didn't win. He went to the next one and won it. Then he won another, and the domino effect occurred as one win built on the next one.
But we are going to have failures along the way, and those are even more important than the
successes. The most important aspect of all is putting ourselves out there. We will never know whether we will fail and/or succeed until the idea gets put into action. Stop waiting for the right time or the perfect time. Neither one will come knocking on your door.
Say to yourself, "I'm good enough right now," because that's exactly right. You're good enough to set that idea into motion. It's time to see what happens!
Today I came to a startling realization.
I went to the grocery store and then picked up a Starbucks treat, a grande iced caramel macchiato made with soy milk. It's my go-to. I enjoy it...
...until today. Today I wasn't feeling it. I paid over $5.00 for it, and I didn't even enjoy much of it before I decided to pour the rest of it out. I basically poured $5.00 down the drain.
And I didn't like that feeling. I started thinking about all the iced coffee and tea drinks I've been buying lately, and I suddenly felt sick to my stomach.
So much wasted money.
Don't get me wrong. I do enjoy coffee shops and amazing hand-crafted coffees. I like the atmosphere. I like the experience of meeting up with a friend or doing some writing while I leisurely sip on the deliciousness someone has taken the care to make.
And that's what I need to get back to. Enjoying the experience as much as enjoying the cup of coffee. It's what I've been missing lately. I started taking coffee for granted, and thus, not enjoying it very much.
It's time to get back to why I enjoy coffee so much. It's more about the experience and less about the coffee itself.
Even though it was an expensive lesson, it's one that will have a bigger payoff in the grand scheme of things. A better cup of coffee and an even more positive experience.
Sometimes we need a swift kick in the butt. It could come in the form of a health scare. It could be the loss of our job. It could be the death of a loved one. It could be the 20 pounds gained in the last year.
That definitive "It" is a wake-up call.
We all need them. We get complacent and lazy.
But sometimes we let things go far too long and that wake up call shatters the reverie we've been in.
And that's exactly what we need. What happens after that is up to us.
Are we going to heed the call and do something about it or pitch our tent in hope-a, hope-a land and keep our fingers crossed that it all works out?
I don't know about you, but I would rather get my act together and do something about it instead of hoping and wishing. We get overwhelmed though sometimes and that's what leads to our inactivity. Rather than just doing something, we don't do anything at all, because we don't know where to start.
First, breathe. Just take a deep breath. And now another. Simply sit without any distractions and breathe.
Now tell yourself these words, "It will be okay." Because you know what? It will. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but eventually it will be okay. Keep telling yourself this, especially when the times get tough and you want to shut down.
Nothing is easy, especially those things in life that are really worth it. They take time and sustained effort.
You're breathing deeply and slowly and telling yourself it will be okay, now what?
What is your priority? Don't think about it. The first thing that popped into your head is it. Write it down. Now. Get a piece of paper or a journal, write your priority at the top, and write down everything that has to do with that priority. Just get the words out. Write until you've got nothing left.
That's enough for today. Rome wasn't built in a day, remember?
I've got nothing today. Seriously, nothing. Well, that's not completely true. I have a lot of thoughts swirling around in my head and I'm not sure what to do with them.
My first solution was to watch a couple of episodes of Friends. I figured that taking my mind off my thoughts would be just what I needed.
But that didn't happen. In fact, as I was watching the second episode, I kept drifting off to my thoughts. I'm not even sure what that second episode was about, but I knew I needed to do something with my thoughts.
Enter the brain dump.
Brain dumps are helpful when we just need to get thoughts out of our heads. I recommend going old school on this one with a pen and a journal. It's a pretty simple process. You start writing. Anything that is in your head goes onto the paper. It's a stream of consciousness. You keep writing as long as you have thoughts popping into your head.
I always know I need a brain dump when I'm fidgety and can't stop thoughts from flowing. I know I'm done with a brain dump when I'm relaxed and the thoughts aren't coming as fast and furiously. It's like I've gotten everything out of my system.
You know that feeling after you've thrown up so much that you know when you're finally done? This is thought vomit. You keep the words scribbling on paper (spelling, grammar, and the like don't count) until you don't have anything left.
What do you do with the brain dump once you're done? Well, that's completely up to you. It really depends on what you got down on paper. Sometimes I'm pretty frustrated and so I vent. Once I get it out of my system, I rip up the paper and throw it away signifying letting it go.
Sometimes my brain dump is a to-do list. I get all of these ideas of things I need to do with Get To It, at my school counseling job, or projects around the house. I get them down on paper and then I can go back through them to prioritize what needs to get done first.
And then there are times where I get some pretty great writing ideas that I keep for future use. I write them down especially when I'm afraid I will forget them, like at night when I'm staring at the ceiling because I don't want to forget an amazing idea. Yeah, that's another reason for a brain dump. It helps me get back to sleep at night.
Brain dumps are flat out fabulous, because they allow us to vent rather than hurt another person's feelings, they give us an opportunity to organize our thoughts, and they allow our creativity to come alive.
I dare you to give it a shot if you've never tried it.
See what you think. I'm willing to bet you'll feel a sense of peace and relaxation. But then again, maybe that's just me.
What scares you?
I mean in the sense of doing something that is outside your comfort zone.
I've seen the advice before of doing something everyday that scares you, and although I like it I hadn't really done it...until...today. My hesitation previously had to do with feeling like it needed to be something big each day.
But it doesn't.
It just needs to be something out of our comfort zone. For instance, when I went to buy hair dye at Walgreens this afternoon, it was on sale for $7.99 with my card. Then I noticed you could get $2.00 more off with the coupon. The problem was that I didn't know where to find the coupon. Now, the compliant part of me would have just been satisfied with already getting a deal with the sale. I got out of my comfort zone and asked the cashier about the coupon and she helped me find it. So, my hair dye that was $9.99 originally ended up being $5.99.
All because I stepped up and asked a question.
It's not that it scared me to ask, but it was outside of my comfort zone. Usually, I just go into a store, get what I need, and get out as quickly as possible.
When we do something once, it often creates a snowball effect and propels us to try something else. My next stop was to pick up a couple of items at Bath and Body Works. I needed a new plug-in and found one for $9.50, full price. It was their semi-annual sale and I didn't see any plug-ins for sale, but it didn't stop me from asking and it paid off. The cashier led me to one of two left she had for sale, and I ended up paying $5.75 instead.
I'm starting to ask myself, what's the worst that can happen when I ask questions or make a request?
The other person could say, "No."
That's not a personal rejection for me to take offense to. It just is what it is. I'm starting to frame it that way.
I've read numerous articles that point to being able to face, "No," multiple times, because eventually we're going to get the "Yes."
The key is to take baby steps. Start with small questions, requests, and new adventures. Build over time.
What do we have to lose?
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.