Yesterday my husband was driving home from playing golf on a two-lane highway. There was one car ahead of him and then a semi in front of it. The car in front of him kept swinging out to see when there was a good time to pass.
On this particular stretch of road, there is no good time but this car was having none of that. The driver kept swinging out and back and then finally saw the opportunity and went.
What that driver didn't see and what my husband could see being a little further back were two cars coming from the opposite direction. As he said to me as he relayed the story, it was like watching a horrendous accident about to unfold and there was not one thing he could do about it. He was preparing himself for the aftermath.
At the last second, the semi swerved to the shoulder on one side, the two oncoming cars swerved to the shoulder on their side, and the driver who was in such a hurry managed to continue on his/her way. Because those other drivers made quick decisions and maneuvers, an accident was avoided.
Why are people in such a hurry?
The driver who narrowly avoided causing lives to be changed forever due to the quick actions of others probably saved a mere few minutes to get to the desired destination. Are a few minutes really that important versus the potential lives that could have been lost?
So, I repeat, why are people in such a hurry?
I don't get it. I picture that driver rushing to the next destination and then rushing on to the next, and then...well, you get it. When there's no slowing down, there's no enjoyment.
When we're in a hurry, we miss out on more. We lose out on opportunities to connect and relate to others. We lose the chance to enjoy experiences.
So, slow down for pete's sake!
*When you're behind a slow driver, use it as a chance to send positive thoughts to loved ones in our mind by saying each of their names and why we're grateful for them.
*When you're waiting in a long line at the grocery store, strike up a conversation with the person behind you.
*When you're sitting in the pouring rain waiting for it to subside, make a list of things you plan to do when it stops.
*Instead of always feeling like you have to be doing something, do nothing. Sit in silence. Take deep breaths.
*Have a conversation with someone without thinking about what you're going to say next, without your phone by your side, and without looking around you. Focus on that person in that moment.
And these ideas are just the beginning. I think about all the senseless tragedies and time lost when we get in such a hurry. It just doesn't seem worth it to me. Do you?
When someone asks me what I'm good at, I hesitate. My initial reaction is I'm not humble if I answer it. Or, maybe it's more like questioning. Am I good at anything?
Then there's the part of me that says, "Heck yes, I'm good at a whole bunch of things!" Okay, maybe not a whole bunch, but we need to be in tune with what we are good at, what we want to cultivate, and continue to improve.
I have this book called, 1 Page at a Time and it has different creative prompts in it. The page I randomly turned to this evening was 10 Things I'm Good At.
So, here we go in no particular order:
1. Eating breakfast
4. Being flexible
5. Coming up with ideas spontaneously
6. Loving my family
7. Being positive and encouraging others
8. Going to coffee shops
9. Making people smile
10. Trying new experiences
Your challenge: Take out a piece of paper and write your list. Don't overthink it, just write down what comes naturally to you. You can't be wrong, because you know yourself better than anyone else. Who better to write the list than you?! :)
When you get that first "Unsubscribe" request, it feels a little like a dagger.
As I started my newsletter, GTI Wednesday, I knew it would happen at some point and I've actually been super pleased that this is the first one since the first newsletter went out in March.
That's a pretty good run.
But it still hurts a little. I think when it's something you're passionate about that you think everyone will be just as excited as you are.
The truth is, they aren't.
While that sounds callous, it's the truth, and sometimes the truth hurts.
The first thing that went through my mind was, "Seriously? You're unsubscribing from a newsletter that promotes simple living and positive vibes? That's like saying you like complicated living and negative vibes."
Yes, I know it's not realistic, but it was my first thought.
If I'm going to make it as a writer, I have to accept that I'm going to lose subscribers along the way. And while it will always probably bother me a little, I choose to focus on the positive which is what I offer anyway.
I love what I do, offering a free newsletter that's a five-minute read of positive nuggets. I love to promote things to read, listen, and do. That might mean promoting a small local business that has a product or service that could be beneficial. It means sharing a tip on health, fitness, or productivity. It might also include a motivational or funny video.
While that might not be everyone's jam, my goal is to add value to the lives of others who do subscribe. Speaking of, if what I've said about GTI Wednesday piques your interest, I would love to have you join the tribe. Subscribe at gettoit11.com.
Today was an opportunity to see how I would react to a real life situation. Not everyone is going to like what I do, and that's okay. Onward and upward!
I've always known this about myself, but I reiterated it today in a piece I wrote on medium.com (You can find it here.).
I feel guilty when I give myself time to relax.
Mind you, keeping myself busy does not necessarily mean I am being productive, but it seems like I have to always be doing something.
I need to stop doing that. It's okay to give myself time to relax, because it means I'm recharging. It means I'm letting go of being on the go. And that's perfectly okay.
Today I learned it's important to not do too much. I tried to squeeze in too many activities with family. Even though I thought I could do everything I planned, I quickly found out it wasn't going to work out.
On most days I know not to overload my schedule, but when it comes to family I try to do everything possible. It just didn't work out this time. The important thing is to not let guilt wear you down if this ever happens to you. I used to do this, but now I do a better job of letting the guilt go. I figure out a different day when I can spend more quality time with loved ones rather than having to race off from one event to the next.
Unfortunately, today I missed celebrating my great nephew Ryan's 2nd birthday. But then again, we missed our own daughter's 2nd birthday. She's now 24, and she doesn't seem scarred by our absence. It just meant we got to celebrate more when we came back from the trip that caused us to miss her day. She didn't remember us being gone for it, and neither will Ryan.
Besides, I'm selfish. When we do get to see him, we will get to spend extra time with him. And the quality time is what I'm really looking forward to, rather than the quick short burst of superficial time today would have provided.
So, quit planning too much and take the opportunity to enjoy time with the important people in your life.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.