I'm usually not one who is very good with keeping my focus on one task at a time. I like to jump around from one thing to the next. The problem with this is that I rarely complete what I've set out to do.
My entire focus the last three weeks has been on our house and moving to our apartment. It's been a process of working on making the fixes on our current home, hammering out the closing date (it's three days sooner now), having a garage sale and moving sale, packing for the move to our apartment, purging stuff to get rid of or donate, and making a pile of things to take to a storage unit.
While that is an immense list, I finally have a better idea of what it means to do deep work. I don't stay focused for very long, like an hour tops. However, making the move a priority has been no problem for me to work on for three or four hour chunks at a time. I've been concentrating on it all so much that I haven't done much else. I kind of feel like it's been consuming my entire life.
I realize now this is what it should feel like when I'm writing. I'm definitely not there yet, but now that I know what being in zone for a longer period of time feels like I'm ready to tackle it once this month is over.
While I doubt I will ever be the type of person who can sustain deep work on a long term basis, I now know that it's possible for me to have a one track mind when I really need to buckle down to do it.
How about you? I would love to hear your thoughts!
I've been thinking a lot about goals versus targets.
Goals are pretty much hard core. They have a definite end date in mind and are finite.
Targets are a little more forgiving and lenient. They offer something to work toward but are flexible.
Some of us work well with having hard pressed goals, and others of us are more successful when we have targets. Whichever way one chooses to go, here is something to keep in mind: there's only so much that can be controlled.
For example, I could have a goal of making $10,000 for my writing over the next year, but there is a lot I can't control in that figure. What I can control is putting myself in position to hit that by the number of proposals I make for writing gigs. I can give myself a target of sending out 10 proposals this week. That's something I can control.
I can give myself a goal of selling 500 copies of my book, but I can't control whether people buy it once its published. I can target what I will do as a long-term marketing strategy to put myself in a position for that to happen.
I could give myself a goal of losing 10 pounds by a certain date or I can give myself a target to feel better in how my clothes fit by making sure I work out for 30 minutes a day and eat more of a plant-based diet.
And, yes, those are all legit examples of some of the goals I gave myself for 2018. I decided I was being unfair to myself though, because I neglected to think about all that is out of my control.
Right now we are in the phase of selling our house and making the transition to a much smaller living space. We are selling a lot of our items so that we don't have to move them. It takes a lot of time to market what we have to sell, organizing a garage sale, and beginning to pack what we plan to move with us.
Quite honestly, I haven't thought about paid writing gigs, finishing my book, or losing weight. I'm doing a bit of writing here and there, I'm waiting to work on my book when we move, and I'm starting to get back into better eating and working out as of the last week.
Because my priority has been focused on the house and moving, it's much better for me to have targets.
What works for you?
The quote in my newsletter today, GTI Wednesday, has to do with doing something today that your future self will thank you for. Every day is a great day to show gratitude. It helps us be more in tune with
the happenings in our daily life. Here's what I'm grateful for today:
1. The seven years I've been in my school district is coming to a close today. I'm grateful for the time and experiences I've had.
2. I like that I get up each morning for some quiet time.
3. Enjoying a glass of water first think quenches my thirst.
4. Watching TV with my husband and enjoying our comedies is something we like doing together.
5. I finally bought one of the novels by an author I've been following on Instagram.
6. I'm thankful for the soaking rain we got yesterday. The ground needed it.
7. Hearing the birds chirping outside so early in the morning is a beautiful sound.
8. I like my comfy bed because it allows me a good night's sleep.
9. We met with our realtor in the next step to finalizing the sale of our home.
10. I made sure I wrote in my journal last night to get back on track with it.
Remember the scene in the TV show, Boy Meets World, where the older brother smacks the younger brother in the forehead as he says, "Life's tough. Get a helmet."
Someone needs to do this to me.
I’m definitely in a funk right now, and I know the root cause is that we haven’t sold our home yet. Although it has only been a little over a month, we’ve had nearly 30 showings and no offers. You can read about our latest developments here.
I’m starting to feel a little paranoid.
And, it is seeping into other areas of my life.
Seeping isn’t the right word.
More like an avalanche.
And I can’t seem to get out of my own way.
Have you ever felt like that? You know you have so much going for you, and there is no reason for you to have a pity party, and yet you do.
I’m a firm believer in karma. What you put out into the universe is what comes back to you.
Right now I’m putting a whole lot of negativity out there, and that’s precisely what is coming back to smack me in the face.
Flipping the switch.
A change in mindset is simply making the decision to stop the pity party. As much as it might be grabbing attention by being all “woe is me,” it’s not getting me anywhere.
No progress is happening.
If it’s not doing any good, then why continue doing it?
It’s like following the same steps over and over again, yet expecting a different result.
It’s just not going to happen.
So, I made the choice to put positive out in the universe. Before our house showing last night, I cleaned off the patio and put the cushions on our outdoor furniture. I swept the sidewalks. I made a batch of cookies to give the house an even more homey smell. Inviting.
I don’t know whether it will result in an offer, but either way, I’m good.
I feel a whole lot better about my mindset moving forward.
In the big picture, that’s what counts.
My favorite day of the week is TODAY. It's what I can deal with and focus upon instead of what happened yesterday or trying to figure out what might happen tomorrow.
Today, I'm grateful for a supportive group on Facebook. This month we're called the April Ambitions. Each month we have changed our name to reflect the current month, but the mission is the same: get rid of the excess in our lives. We ask each other questions, request feedback, and generally let each other know that we have similar feelings when it comes to the "stuff" in our lives. We are about to celebrate one year together, and while some members are very active in contributing, others have said they simply enjoy being able to read the posts and to get ideas. We love new members, just ask to join.
Today, I'm grateful for the conversation Jack and I had about our house and our future move. It was reflective of our individual personalities. I'm of the attitude of when we jump the net will appear. He would rather be able to see that net before he jumps. That's what makes us work. We are alike in so many ways, but our differences show our individuality. We force each other to think outside our comfort zones.
Today, I'm grateful for our open house. No, it didn't yield any offers but once again the home is spotless. Since it has been on the market, it has been pretty easy to maintain the cleaning and doesn't take us long to complete before a showing.
Today, I'm grateful for making the decision to go ahead and start boxing things up that I know we will take with us. I have boxes, newspaper, and bubble wrap. I might as well get started while I have the time rather than wait until the house is sold. It will make the move easier.
Today, I'm grateful for beautiful weather. It is gorgeous outside. It's a day like this that reminds me why I love living where I do. Blue sky, bright sun, very little wind, and almost 70 degrees. People are outside working on their lawns and taking walks with their families. You can't beat it.
Take a few moments in your day to reflect on what is good about it, because I promise you that there many reasons to be grateful if you just take the time to think about them.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.