Being bold and taking risks give us an adrenaline rush. We get goosebumps with anticipation as we dare to try something different.
Leo Babauta's book, The Effortless Life, is doing exactly that for me. Babauta's philosophy in the way he lives his life is giving me a lot to think about, but there is one concept in particular that has inspired me to give a shot: having no expectations.
Think about it.
We always have expectations about how we think things should go. Things over which we have absolutely no control, even though we think we do.
One such way has to do with others. We get someone a gift that we are totally excited about giving. We excitedly wait as he/she opens it and think that the reaction to the gift is going to be nothing short of fireworks shooting off overhead.
It doesn't happen. Instead, our perception is a lukewarm reception to a gift we thought was out of this world.
We're disappointed. We put forth so much time and effort toward this gift, and this is the thanks we get?!
Babauta suggests changing our mindset to having no expectations. This means we do things for the pure enjoyment of having done them. When we don't concern ourselves with the other person's reaction not meeting our expectations, we feel good about the action itself.
The mindset is like performing random acts of kindness anonymously, but in this case the anonymous part is not being cognizant of the other person's reaction. If the person acknowledges what we did, it's icing on the cake. We're not expecting it, so no harm no foul.
We're free to enjoy the moment either way.
I think Babauta is really on to something.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.