Sometimes I will read a piece of advice that is such simple common sense that it reminds me of those old V-8 juice commercials. The ones where the person has something else to drink and then hits himself in the forehead while proclaiming, "Duh, I could've had a V-8!"
This falls advice falls under that category:
"If you don't want to slip, don't go where it's slippery." (Alcoholics Anonymous Maxim).
Duh, right? It's simple, common sense advice. So easy and yet sometimes a challenge to follow. Sometimes I struggle with Facebook and Instagram, and it's because envy (or even jealousy) seeps in when I see pictures of friends and colleagues out doing activities or going on trips. I feel happy for them in general, but then there is a part of me that wonders why I wasn't included.
And then I ask myself, "Do you really want to be included or do you just like the idea of being asked and saying no?"
Oh. When I step back and ask myself this question, the answer is easy and humbling.
The straightforward solution would be to stop looking at Facebook and Instagram. If I don't want to slip into envy and jealousy, then I shouldn't go where that could happen. This is precisely what the quote above means in black and white terms.
Or, we can look at it another way.
While I know I won't stop social media, I can definitely do a better job of limiting when I go and framing what I see.
I think it's important to set a time limit. My goal is 30 minutes a day. While that might seem like a lot of time, it isn't when I'm spending part of that time using social media for Get To It. I update my status, go to my groups that I'm actively involved in, add a picture to Instagram and scroll through, and then check out Twitter (increasingly becoming my overall news source).
I generally do one segment in the morning and then one segment in the evening for 15 minutes each. And yes, sometimes I set a timer, because otherwise I will get sucked into the black hole that is social media.
In addition to using social media for my business, I do use it for personal reasons. It allows me to keep in touch with friends and family far away. I remind myself that when we all post our statuses and pictures, generally we're sharing the best side of ourselves. It's nothing to be envious or jealous about when we reframe it in this way. It's an opportunity to celebrate the successes with them when we can't be there in person.
So, if we want avoid slipping up, it takes a change in attitude. If we feel ourselves slipping into the envy and jealousy mode, it might be time to take a break cold turkey and then come back into it slowly. If we still find ourselves feeling negative each time we check out social media, then we definitely have our answer.
We can only slip when we're going somewhere slippery.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.