A candle, coffee or tea, and reading can only mean one thing for me. I'm in relaxation mode.
With the hustle and busyness of the holiday season, it's so easy to get caught up in all that we perceive needs to be done. In those hectic moments, it's vital that we relax and enjoy the moments.
Instead of thinking about what has to be done, reframe to making the choice to do those things because you enjoy them rather than out of a sense of obligation. If you're doing it, because you feel an obligation then more than likely you're not finding enjoyment. It becomes a vicious cycle and soon enough you begin to resent this time of year rather than cherishing the moments.
Take a deep breath, sit yourself down, and give yourself a break. Those dishes that are piled in the sink? They can be done tomorrow. Instead of making eight different kinds of holiday cookies, cut it in half. Enlist the help of your kids and have fun with it, even if it means your kitchen becomes a disaster area.
Who cares? You're making memories. Your kids aren't going to care about how clean the kitchen was growing up. They are going to remember that either they had fun with you or you were a stressed out ball of nerves. Which one do you want your kids to recall?
Right now I'm sitting here at my desk drinking a cup of hot tea. I baked two different kinds of cookies tonight, made dinner, and washed dishes. I'm still in my work clothes and I'm caked in flour dust.
You know what?
You guessed it. I don't care. It was fun and enjoyable. As I was making cookies, I recalled just this last Saturday when our kids came home and we were doing the same. We had a family dinner and laughed a lot that night.
When we relax, it allows us to recall pleasant memories more easily. We aren't constantly thinking about what needs to be done next. Rather, we are in the here in and now.
Ultimately, the present is what it's all about. We've heard it a thousand times but it bears repeating. We can't change what has already happened and we can't dwell on what hasn't happened yet.
We can simply enjoy now and that's all that truly matters.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.