My daily guided meditation was perfectly timed this morning.
The previous day was rough. A supervisor threw me under the bus to a colleague who informed me of it. A publication I had contributed columns to for two years turned down my proposal to get paid for my work.
One happened at the beginning of the day and the other happened at the end of the day. I was dejected, rejected and beaten down. That hasn't happened in awhile, and even though I was pretty bummed it was also beneficial for me.
Rejection helps us grow. It forces us to take a step back, not repeat the same mistakes, and get better. I know I work harder when I have to bounce back.
And then my morning meditation happened. Sometimes there is an elephant in the room. It might say, "Hello," but you don't have to allow the elephant to take you for a ride.
When I felt beaten down, I was wallowing in my own self-pity. I was having quite a party for myself. I couldn't get past it, and it wore on me. I was letting the elephant take me for a ride. As I listened to the guided meditation, I learned that what I needed to do was acknowledge the elephant, say "Hello" to it, and then let it drift away. Instead of jumping on for a ride and holding on to my self-pity, it would have been so much better for me to accept what happened, take a deep breath and move on.
In the big picture, the two bumps in the road I experienced weren't the end for me. They weren't devastating. They were put in my path to teach me a couple of lessons.
The first is that people are people and they are going to disappoint. Rather than having expectations for how I think people should operate, I can control only what I can control. And that is myself and myself only.
The second is it's important to take risks. When I put the proposal together to be paid for my writing contributions, there was a chance it would be rejected. I decided though that two years was more than enough time to give without compensation. While I know I could continue writing for the publication, it's not going to get me where I want to go.
There are always going to be elephants that come into our lives. They are going to walk into the room. When we see them, we have a choice to make. We can either get on for a ride or we can say, "Hello" and then let them go.
Letting go definitely sounds like the better option to me.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.