I witnessed something on the playground at one of my schools today.
It resembled a mosh pit.
I looked over to see kindergarten and first grade students pushing at each other. They didn’t seem mad. They were just pushing. However, I could imagine it escalating and so I yelled over to them to stop treating each other that way and to be kind to one another.
As I reflected on those two minutes of time, I thought about Gandhi’s 8th rule from Gandhi’s 10 Rules for Change by Henrick Edberg (positivityblog.com, June 28, 2013): see the good in people and help them.
Sometimes things start innocently enough and quickly escalate. We lose sight of the good in others rapidly, and sometimes we make assumptions about them that are unfair.
What we need to do instead is to remember that there is good in everyone, even those who talk badly about us or who have wronged us in the past.
It’s hard to forgive and let go (Rule #3...I’m still working on that one), but when we do so, the good in others comes through much more clearly. We see their positive traits and the way they can be. We can be the catalyst in how their day whether or not they recognize it.
I’ve gone out of my way to help someone, only to have that person not recognize it. I’ve been a little bitter about it too. I’ve thought to myself, “Wow, I did all that work and she didn’t even say thanks.”
I shouldn’t need recognition for what I’ve done. It’s enough to have done it.
It’s enough to see the good in people and help them.
I’m currently on this quest to perform 100 good deeds (check out 100gooddeeds.org to find out more about what this organization is doing to see their amazing works). I ordered a bracelet from the organization (pictured above), and there are 100 beads on it. Every time I do a good deed, I move the counter over to the next bead.
Here’s the catch. The good deeds must be anonymous. Good deeds the other person doesn’t find out about.
Helping others without being recognized for it.
Seeing the good in people and helping them.
Get it? Good, now go do it.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.