"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
-- Eleanor Roosevelt
This might quite possibly be my favorite quote of all time. It reminds me that I'm in control of how I feel, what I react to, and how I conduct myself.
Gandhi's 2nd rule for change (this is the 2nd blog of 10) is "You are in control."
Eleanor Roosevelt's quote reminds me of the fact that I'm in control. If I let others put me down and make me feel inferior, it's all on me. I've taken the control out of my hands and put it into theirs.
When someone is negative, I get to decide if his/her negative attitude is going to affect my day. I can decide whether or not I'm going to listen to gossip. I can decide whether or not I'm going to get caught up in someone else's drama.
There was a day when with all three I made the choice to cave in to the negative attitude, gossip, and drama. I was a much unhappier person during that time.
When I decided to take control of myself, then things rapidly changed for the better. I limit my time around negative friends and colleagues. When someone tells me gossip or expresses drama in the workplace or personally, I listen and then walk away letting it go in one ear and out the other.
I control what I allow into my life. This probably explains why I no longer watch the news, unfollow friends on Facebook who put others down or whose views are drastically different from my own, and watch very little TV unless it's a sporting event.
Instead, I read motivational blogs, listen to personal and professional development podcasts, read books that expand my mind, listen to uplifting music, meditate, lift, run, and spend massive amounts of time with my family (they are my favorite people).
Controlling what and who I allow into my life, along with the activities I participate in, have been some of the best decisions I've ever made. It has made me a much more positive and happier person.
Remember, you have control over yourself. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.