I'm not a full-fledged feminist. While I believe that men and women should have equal rights when it comes to pay for the same job, there are some areas where I admittedly waffle. I'm not a purist. I don't see feminism as a black and white issue but rather one with all kinds of gray matter. And in that vein, I know that I'm viewed as a hypocrite.
There are just some areas where I like being appreciated for being a woman when it comes to good manners, and I witnessed that twice today at the gym where I work out. One was when I went to fill up my water bottle. I was heading to the fountain at the same time as one of the guys. He stepped back and said, "Ladies first."
Now I know true feminists would be appalled by this gesture. Whoever gets to the fountain first, gets a drink first. Or, I should have said, "Guys first."
The second happened as I was leaving. A guy was using his fob to get in the outer door and I was coming through the inner door. I hesitated to let him come through and when he saw me, he stepped back to let me come through instead. No words were uttered. I simply took him up on the kind gesture.
See, that's how I view the two incidents that I experienced today, kind gestures. I didn't look at them as feminism vs. masculism. I looked at them as good manners or being polite. I guess I was raised to believe that men should show some reverence toward women, which is completely different than putting a woman on a pedestal or treating her like a trophy. But good manners, there's just no substitute for them.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.