At the end of the day, sometimes I wonder if I did anything right. Not that anything is particularly bad or wrong, I just wonder if I made a difference. I think it happens, because I'm looking for grand gestures rather than noticing the details.
Smiling at someone. Saying hi. Asking if I can help. Opening a door. Telling someone thank you. Giving a compliment. Telling my husband I appreciated him getting the mail. Sending a text to my dad to ask how his day is going. Checking in with my mom to see how her store is doing.
All of these examples make a difference.
We never know what someone is going through and our seemingly small gesture can make all the difference.
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." --Socrates
Maybe she just found a lump in her breast. Maybe he just lost his job. Maybe he's worried about his best friend. Maybe she just got out of an abusive relationship.
We just don't know what battle someone is fighting, so it's up to us to make each other's load a little lighter.
And we all know this but it's still important to remind ourselves that no matter how small the gesture, we make a difference. We make a difference in the life of the other person, and in doing so, we make a difference in our own lives.
As strange as it might sound, when we do something kind for someone else, it ripples and multiplies.
It ripples in that the receiver may very easily become the giver for someone else.
It multiplies, because doing one thing often inspires us to do something else. It's that proverbial domino effect.
For example, when I open a door for someone and he says, "Thank you," it sends a little smile to my heart. I might then say, "Hi," to a stranger next. When she responds in kind, then it might easily prompt me to see if I can help someone with a task.
See how that works?
And at the end of the day, we have made a difference in the lives of others as well as our own.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.