I'm just as guilty as the next person of being oblivious to my surroundings at times. I'm only thinking about myself and not about how my actions could be affecting others.
I think most of us get in our own bubble and get focused on what we are doing. It's not necessarily a negative thing but it can become one when it has a negative effect on others.
Case in point, I currently work in the retail world and we close at 9:00. We have closing responsibilities to complete before we go home. This can take anywhere from 5-30 minutes on average depending on the amount of foot traffic we've had. I can accept a longer closing time when we've had a busy day and evening.
However, last night as the announcement was being made that the store would be closing in five minutes, two customers brought items back to the fitting room to try on. Everyone working handled it like a champ as we had most of our duties completed and we were still able to leave right after those customers left the building.
But it left me thinking, did those two customers have any idea how they affected the people who were working? Not only did it affect the fitting room stylists but also the sales associates on our side of the floor as well as the entire first floor staff as we all leave at the same time. If one department gets done ahead of another, then it's all hands on deck to help out until we are all done. Those two customers had an effect on the 15 employees who were waiting to go home, some of whom had been working nine hours.
My guess is that those two customers had no clue that their actions five minutes before closing time could impact others. They were in their own bubble.
Like I said at the beginning, though, most of us are guilty of doing the very same thing unintentionally. We don't think about how our actions impact others who are on the periphery.
So, here's the challenge. Start noticing how your actions may affect others no matter what environment you're in, whether it's with your loved ones or the strangers you come into contact with when you are in public. We all have the ability to see outside of ourselves. The key is to put it into practice.
In other words, it's time to pop the bubble.
"There is a 'no matter what' aspect to my relationship with progress." -Josh LeJaunie
I love this, because when something is so important to us we have this type of attitude. We will go after it with all we have. A go big or go home kind of energy.
What is it that drives you?
Sometimes I fall into the trap that if I can't do things a certain way, don't have an allotted amount of time, or the environment isn't quite right, I let that get into my head and fall into 'paralysis analysis.' I get so caught up in the planning and thinking about doing something that I fail to engage in the action piece (which, by the way, is the most important piece).
Or, I think that if I don't do it all, then I'm failing. For example, I used to work out 1-2 hours a day, 4-5 days a week. I was an absolute beast! I went after work and got to the gym around 4:00 and then left to go home around 5:30-6:00. Now I rarely work out for 30 minutes, 2-3 days a week.
Why? Because I fell out of the 'no matter what' attitude. I adopted the go big or go home mentality and I went home instead of going big. Sure, life has changed significantly. I'm in a completely different job situation where my work hours shift and I work every other weekend. It's not as convenient for me to work out as it used to be and so I gave up rather than make sure I worked out 'no matter what.'
I think it's important to give ourselves grace during a season such as this. I worked with a customer yesterday who had decided to get back into physical activity. She joined her local YMCA and decided she would like to do water aerobics classes. She came in to buy a couple of swimsuits. She is doing everything right to plan and prepare to get back into the game. She has even run into people she already knows who are taking classes. I hope she gets that 'no matter what' attitude.
Like on the days where she would rather stay home, I hope she goes to her water aerobics class no matter what.
The same can be said for myself. Instead of thinking I need one or two hours to work out, take the time I do have and get the most out of it. Instead of thinking I need two hours to edit and revise my book, take the time I do have no matter what and make progress toward finishing and publishing it.
No matter what, when we adopt the 'no matter what' attitude, we are making progress toward our goals.
And that's exactly what matters!
The alarm goes off and you hit the snooze button...again, again, and again. By the time you turn it off, you're flying out of bed scrambling to get ready so that you can get out of the house on time.
Does this sound familiar?
It does to me. I used to wonder why I would always feel so rushed and behind when I got to work in the morning. Hello?!
Then I read Hal Elrod's book, The Miracle Morning, and it changed the way I viewed my morning. I started getting up over an hour earlier (thus, I started going to bed an hour earlier) so that I could have some time to myself in the morning instead of sprinting the minute my feet hit the floor.
Hal gives suggestions about how to start your morning. Check out this YouTube video, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. It gives a summary of Hal's acronym S.A.V.E.R.S. and how you can start your morning on a much more positive note.
I took Hal's ideas and tweaked them to fit my lifestyle. Here's what I make sure I do every morning:
*Take my thyroid medicine and drink a glass of water (and feed the cat)
*Do a 10 minute guided meditation
*Do my bible study and pray
*Complete my morning 5-minute journal entry
*Stretch and/or workout
*Read if I have extra time
My morning routine takes anywhere between 30-45 minutes. If I have the extra time to read then I add 30 minutes.
I'm at a place in my life where I have more time to myself. I completely understand all the busy moms and dads out there going from one place to another trying to keep it all together (been there, done that). However, it isn't impossible to squeeze 10-15 minutes for yourself each morning. It's all in changing the mindset and prioritizing yourself at the beginning of the day.
Trust me, if you start with yourself first thing in the morning, you will find more peace and contentment in your day.
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”
– Mandy Hale
I'm going to write a series of blog posts on self-care. I've written about it in various pieces, but I think it's so important that I want to devote a few weeks to it specifically.
Why? Because we live in a world where there is so much negativity. Many people experience depression, anxiety, and stress, and they don't know where to turn. There are high levels of overwhelm at work, home, with money, and in relationships.
It's necessary to remind ourselves that in order to face the stress and pressure that happen we absolutely have to take care of ourselves first.
We are worth it!
Have you ever thought about how much your time was worth?
I’m sure a lot of you have, but I haven’t and maybe that’s what is holding me back from bigger and better things.
I’ve never bought into the whole, “I want to be a millionaire,” picture. It doesn’t work for me.
In fact, I’ve gone the other direction. I went from making $72,000 a year, to $55,000 a year, to roughly my present income of $35,000 a year. All by choice.
So, yeah, the whole money thing isn’t a priority. As long as I have the love of an amazing circle of family and a few close friends, a roof over my head, dependable transportation, a job that I respect and enjoy, and an emergency fund, I’m good.
And I have that.
However, Anthony Moore recently wrote “Pretend Your Time is Worth $1,000/Hour and You’ll Become 100x More Productive”, and the headline alone was enough to grab my attention.
It isn’t about becoming rich beyond your wildest dreams. It’s about upping your productivity game, and that I can buy into.
I started to reflect on how I’ve been spending my time lately and I’m not sure I would be worth $20 an hour.
A lot of procrastinating, being lazy, and doing everything but being productive.
While there are some legitimate reasons like getting acclimated to a career move and getting my husband to relax long enough to heal after two recent surgeries, my down time has been truly down time.
And yes, down time is necessary for self-care, but I seem to have taken it to the extreme.
To the point that the last time I published a piece on Medium was January 8.
So, I started to visualize what my time at $1,000 an hour would look like, and this is what I have determined so far:
Planning: Not only will I continue to be an amazing planner but I will follow through on those plans. I will determine what my upcoming week will look like on Sunday.
Action: I will put my butt in the chair. Whether it’s writing, working out, eating healthy meals, working hard for customers, or cultivating relationships, it’s all about action and consistency.
Check in: Each day I will look at my plans in the morning, check in midway during the day, reassess and make revisions as necessary.
Reflect: I will take 5–10 minutes to reflect each evening. That way I can make any adjustments for the following day. At the end of the week, I will take 20–30 minutes to understand what went well, what didn’t go as planned and why, and then begin the process of planning for the next week.
While I haven’t completely worked out the details, the four steps of planning, taking action, checking in, and reflecting will put me on the path to being more productive…and closer to earning $1,000 per hour.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.