I don’t often write about my day job, but I should. As an elementary school counselor, there are nuggets each day I learn from these “little ones.” Nuggets that can easily be transformed into lessons for us “big people.”
I was asked to mediate a disagreement between two third graders. One of them owned up to what happened, we came up with a better way to handle the situation if it happens in the future, and he was back to class within three minutes.
And then there was the other student.
He made noises while his classmate was talking and we both ignored him. When I told him we would need to talk before he could go back to class, he promptly told me we would be here all afternoon.
I simply told him to let me know when he was ready to chat, turned away from him, and commenced to eating my lunch.
He played with my stuffed animals, made comments about a picture another student had made for me, and then he trailed off to silence…seven minutes later.
That’s when I knew he was ready. I turned around and asked him the initial question of what happened and he readily spilled the beans. All it took was some intentional ignoring and gentle questioning when he was ready for it.
What we adults can learn from this situation?
In other words, all had been forgotten.
Kids are resilient and they let things go faster than adults do.
Yeah, we could learn a thing or two from them.
I'm a lover of life, an eternal optimist, and I have an intense desire to add value through simple living and positive vibes.